Supported Surrender

A supportive yoga practice mirrors a supportive relationship. Getting involved is often the easiest part. In the beginning, you enjoy quality time together learning, studying, playing, and balancing. As you begin to lie down the foundation for a long lasting partnership, it becomes instinctive to cultivate qualities like honesty, commitment and compassion. We eventually nurture a devotional kind of love like between the Sun and the Moon or the breath and the body. Selfless, present and infinite. It feels quite nice to be woven into something visceral and real, intuitively fostering an environment of loving kindness. Just like the work exerted within any relationship, the work in our asana practice should always leave us with our emotional cups full. Not depleted and shattered, but awake and healed. A supportive relationship is there even when we don’t see it for a while. When our partners have time alone and healthy boundaries, when we forgo our asanas and slide into our everyday rhythm, both relationships still exist proudly. We are blessed with the opportunity to remember. That we are loved, anchored and encouraged even in the empty moments. Even in the ones where our partnerships are out of sight.

Once we become embedded in our routine, exiting is the hardest part. Like having to breakup with an old habit or an undesirable partner, it is never an easy process. After we’ve become so well acquainted and comfortable, our practice becomes watching for the familiar demons of fear, ego, jealousy, and selfishness to creep back in. When and where we meet resistance and sense judgment, study honestly the shadow. The bit of brokenness of every bond, the dark side of the magical moon. Once we find a bit of peace with these inconsistencies, we have two choices. To quit, break-up, surrender completely. Or to courageously exert the energy necessary for transformation. Regardless of the intelligent decision made, we should feel enlivened by our selection to stand by what we know to be true. What we know to inherently serve the soul. The reflection of our asana practice and our relationships can be our seed of remembrance. That honest work, love and devotion is necessary just as much as our willingness to surrender.